Secure and secure
A steady couple in which both find it easy to ask and to give.
When both partners feel confident in closeness, the relationship has room to breathe. You don't guess what the other's silence means, you talk calmly about what you want, and you don't see separate evenings as a threat. Fights happen, but they usually end in a conversation rather than a cold war.
Friction in this couple is more often about everyday life, temperament and different life plans than about attachment. There's also a quiet risk: when everything is calm, it's easy to stop investing – less attention, fewer new experiences, more routine.
What helps: don't take the calm for granted. Every now and then, have an evening “like at the beginning”, talk not only about practical matters but also about dreams, and notice how each of you has changed. Security is a solid foundation, but it's interest in each other that keeps a relationship alive.
If one of you goes through a hard time, that security may waver for a while. That's normal: at such moments, it matters that the other partner stays close and doesn't demand a quick recovery.
Another strength of this couple is the ability to make up. Both know that a falling-out doesn't cancel love, so either can be the first to reach out.
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