Couple compatibility measured, not guessed
You are already together. What comes next is everything a first date never shows: whose habits will give way, how you argue, what you have both stayed quiet about for years. The platform works it out from your answers and shows it to both of you – the same picture, with nobody else's interpretation on top.
Why measure what you already feel
Couples almost never break up over one big thing. They break up over a dozen small ones that piled up and were never said out loud: who got tired first, whose parents come over for the holidays, why one of you counts the money and the other counts that as distrust. Every one of those, on its own, is solvable. The trouble is that you cannot see them until they turn into a fight.
We go at it differently. You each answer separately and honestly, without comparing notes. The answers are matched across twelve areas, and what you get is not a diagnosis but a map: here you line up almost exactly, here you diverge, and that divergence is not a verdict – it is a conversation worth starting yourselves, before it starts on its own.
One important caveat: the numbers decide nothing for you. A couple scoring 68% is no worse than a couple scoring 91% – they simply know where it will be harder for them. Knowing that in advance is the whole point.
Twelve areas
That is how much we compare in a couple. The bar next to each one shows how strongly it affects the overall score: values carry the most weight, behavior the least.
- Values — Who you want to be in ten years and what you are ready to give up for it. A gap here costs the most, which is why it carries the most weight.
- Attachment — What you do when you feel anxious: move closer or step away. Two opposite reactions in one couple produce the famous “pursue – withdraw” loop.
- Conflicts — How you fight and how you make up. One of you wants to finish the conversation now, the other needs two hours of silence – and both are certain their way is the right one.
- Love languages — How you show warmth and how you read it. The classic trap: he fixes the tap, she was waiting for a conversation, and both end up hurt.
- Intimacy — What closeness means to you, what you expect, and the things that are easier to agree on in writing than out loud.
- Finances — One wallet or two, saving or spending, and whose money it is when you earn different amounts.
- Daily life — Who does the dishes, when you go to bed, how much mess is bearable. Small stuff, measured in years.
- Emotional intelligence — Whether you notice each other's state without words, and whether you can talk about feelings without turning it into an accusation.
- Personality — Compatibility across a sixteen-type system: how you make decisions and where you draw your energy from.
- Temperament — The four temperaments from Helen Fisher's model and how well they get along with one another.
- Intimacy+ — The deeper layer – it opens only when you both agree and is visible to the two of you alone.
- Behavior — How a person behaves on the platform: whether they reply, whether they finish what they start, whether they are respectful.
What a couple gets
Couple mode is switched on by mutual consent and can be switched off at any moment. It is an agreement, not a lock.
Couple mode
You mark each other and choose the kind of relationship you are in. In a traditional one you both disappear from search and stop seeing new people. In an open one your profiles stay where they are – the platform does not decide for you how to live.
We notice when things change
People change, and answers given a year ago stop being true. If your preferences have drifted from what they were at the last review, the platform will say so and offer to recalculate – before the change turns into a surprise.
Relationship check
A short read on where you stand right now: what holds you together, what wears you down, and which two or three conversations are worth having this month.
Two digital secretaries
Each of you has your own, and those conversations are completely closed to your partner. To your own secretary you can say the things that will not come out loud: that it hurts, that you are scared, that “we are going to fight again”. To your partner's secretary you say what you want to get across – it will pass on the substance gently, without blame and without a raised voice.
A mediator when you argue
When a complaint is already formed and comes out sharp, you can hand it to the mediator. Your partner gets the meaning, not the wording. Most fights are held together by the wording.
A history, not a snapshot
The harmony index is kept over time. You see not one number today but a direction: better or worse. That is the only way to tell whether what you are doing is working.
How it works in practice
- You each answer separately — Your partner does not see your answers and you do not see theirs. Otherwise there is no honesty – and without it there is nothing to measure.
- We compare, we do not grade — We do not decide whose answer is right. We look at how well your answers live with each other, and we do it area by area.
- Both of you see the same thing — One report for the two of you, with no hidden parts and no “his” and “hers” versions. Partners looking at different pictures – a ready-made reason for the next fight.
- We hand you something to talk about — Every gap comes with a question worth asking each other, not with a verdict. The answering is yours to do.
What your partner sees and what they do not
Your answers stay yours: your partner is shown the result of the comparison, not what you actually ticked. The intimate sections open only when you both agree, and either of you can close them again single-handedly – with no explanation and without the other being told why.
Conversations with your personal digital secretary are never shown to your partner, under any circumstances. That is the whole point of them: a place to say out loud what is not yet ready to be said to another person.
Either of you can leave couple mode at any moment, and it does not require the other's consent.
Frequently asked questions
Does a low score mean we are not meant to be together?
No. It means that in some places you will have to negotiate deliberately instead of by instinct. The couples that last are not the ones who matched, but the ones who know where they differ and work on it.
Does my partner have to go through all the same things?
For the overall score – yes, there is nothing to compare but two sets of answers. The scales do arrive gradually, though: basic compatibility is calculated right after the main questionnaire, and the rest come online as you take the tests.
We have been together for years. What is in it for us?
Couples like you usually find it the most interesting. Years produce silent arrangements that nobody ever actually agreed to, and more often than not the review shows you not problems, but the places where you adapted long ago and stopped noticing.
Will anyone else see our answers?
No. Answers are not shown to other people, not used for advertising and not passed to anyone outside. Your partner sees the result of the comparison, not what you ticked.
Can we leave couple mode?
Yes, at any moment and single-handedly. Your profiles become visible again, and the reviews stay in your history.
Start with yourself
A couple's score is built from two portraits. Put yours together first – it is free and takes less time than you would think. You can invite your partner afterwards.